I’m 37 and single, but dating a great guy. We’ve been dating for 5 months and he’s terrific with kids. We have an amazing relationship. The other day–seemingly out of nowhere–he broke up with me saying marriage and kids just weren’t something that interested him and he thought it was unfair to stay with me, knowing it’s something I want. I’m crushed. What should I do?
Mate-less in Massachusetts
Dear Mate-less in Massachusetts,
You’ve had plenty of time to think about what you want in life. If you know your life will not be complete without kids in the picture, then you need to be honest with your boyfriend. But I have to wonder if something else isn’t going on here? You say this was out of nowhere. Most of the time, when it comes to things like marriage and children, people make no secrets about their desires. It seems odd that your boyfriend just one day decided it wasn’t fair to stay with you because you wanted a family and he didn’t. Had he led you to believe otherwise before? I’d have a heart to heart with him and see if something else isn’t going on. Keep us posted and let us know how it works out!